jackjanderson: (Milky Way Blue)
Things Jack learned about himself this last week - he does not like to be alone and gets lonely quite easily.

It's been a weird old week with Lucy at her sister's and Samantha at work. Samantha's gone again today - to bring Lucy home - and they'll be back later this afternoon and I am at a loss of things to do. The house is quiet and empty. I've not enjoyed rattling around it in on my own all week and I don't know how Lucy did it all day, every day.

I ended up spending the latter half of the week out - at the library or at a coffee shop mostly... anywhere where there was human contact to be had. I thought about looking into volunteering opportunities. I may even have snuck into one or two of Samantha's classes.

I always knew I was an extrovert and thrived on the company of other people but I had no idea how miserable it would make me to be on my own. I hope this is not an experience to be repeated anytime soon!
jackjanderson: (Crossword)
It's a little before 6am on a Sunday morning, I'm full of cold, home alone and wide awake. The wide awake is mostly a combination of an empty bed and not breathing - but the home alone/empty bed is no related to having a cold.

Lucy's sister Susan went into labour early, two beautiful girls born late Friday night. Amelia and Olivia (Millie and Vivi). Small but healthy as expected for being born 2 months early. Samantha has taken Lucy to be with them and will be back later this morning.

I'm killing the sleepless hours online and came across this 25 Questions survey. Answering and sharing it seemed like a good idea.

1. Do you sleep with your closet doors open or closed? Closed. Leave them open and it'll cast weird shadows and freak the dog out, or one of the cats will get in there.
2. What is the last thing you downloaded onto your computer? Bullet journal layout idea
3. Do you sing in the shower? Yes I do. This morning the girls were very entertained by my rendition of Time To Say Goodbye
4. What inspires you? Passion
5. Would you bungee jump? 'Would'? I have and it was great fun
6. Do you have any pets? We have four right now - two cats and two dogs. Samantha would have horses if she could/we had the land and I know Lucy wants rabbits so this may change
7. What book are you reading? Dan Brown - The Lost Symbol
8. Last book you read? Dan Brown - The Da Vinci Code. Jack re-reads Robert Landgon 2017
9. Are you a sports fan? Yes. I support Manchester City and my local team in football. I also enjoy rugby, ice hockey and formula 1 racing
10. Last Person You Talked To On The Phone? Samantha
11. Favourite foods? Roast beef, yorkshire pudding, roast potatoes, parsnip, broccoli, peas, carrots, mustard and gravy.
12. Mountain Hideaway or Beach House? Can I have a place on the beach with the mountains behind it? No? Oh just the beach house then
13. Last thing you listened to? Strauss - The Blue Danube
14. Growing up, which were you favourite cartoons? Oh God. Woody Woodpecker, The Flintstones, Yogi Bear, The Jetsons... I was a big Hanna Barbera fan
15. What are you listening to now? Birdsong from the garden
16. Relationship Status? In a committed poly triad
17. Biggest Fear? Losing my mind
18. Dream destination? I would love to experience Las Vegas
19. Are you in school? If so what are you studying? I'm thinking of taking some online classes in psychology
20. What is your favourite song at the moment? I don't think I have a favourite per se. Bring Him Home from Les Miserables has been rattling around inside my skull recently.
21. Favourite Movie? Star Wars
22. Favourite color? Green.
23. Where do you want to be in 5 years? Alive
24. Batman or superman? Yes.
25. Who is your favourite villain? There's so many good ones to chose from. Darth Vader, The Joker, Hal 9000, Voldemort, Moriarty, Red Skull, Loki, Ra's Al Ghul, Magneto, Lex Luthor...
jackjanderson: (Milky Way Blue)
[personal profile] katiedid717 asked:
Top five books?
Good question. Difficult question. Let me see.
Arthur C Clarke - 2001: A Space Odyssey
Frank Herbert - Dune
Dan Brown - Angels & Demons
Andy Weir - The Martian
Aldous Huxley - Brave New World

Top five authors?
and I'm going to make an effort to not list the same authors again...
George Orwell
Douglas Adams
Isaac Asimov
HG Wells
Orson Scott Card

Top five movies?
Star Wars. All of them but especially A New Hope
Star Trek III: The Search for Spock
Close Encounters Of The Third Kind
X-Men
Avengers Assemble

Top five albums?
Bach: Brandenburg Concertos
London Philharmonic: The 50 Greatest Pieces of Classical Music
The Music of John Williams: 40 Years Of Film Music
Hans Zimmer: The Classics
Beethoven - Symphonies No. 5 & 7 (Kleiber, Vienna Philharmonic)


[profile] gwendraitth asked:
Top 5 Places to visit?
Paris
New York
Rome
Edinburgh
Berlin

Top 5 Sports?
Football
Rugby
Ice hockey
Formula One
I don't think I have a 5th

Top 5 Foods?
Roast beef & all the trimmings
Macaroni cheese
A full English breakfast
Chocolate fudge cake
Meat lovers pizza

Top 5 Pastimes?
Fishing
Astronomy
Watching movies
Crosswords
Sex

Top 5 People dead or alive you'd like to have dinner with?
I'm guessing Samantha & Lucy don't count?
Neil Armstrong
Homer Simpson
Stan Lee
Galileo Galilei
Mary Steenburgen
jackjanderson: (RAF)
Top Five Meme:
Ask me for my top five in any category, and I'll answer as honestly as I can!
jackjanderson: (The Long & Winding Road)
I'm realising that one of the topics I'm going to end up talking about most is my girls and our relationship/s with each other. I'm also aware that it's going to be misunderstood, misinterpreted so I'm going to come straight out and discuss it.

I have a wife and we have a girlfriend. And believe me, Lucy is very much Samantha's girlfriend as much as she is mine. We are all three in a relationship together.

We are polyamorous.

Polyamory, as defined by the dictionary is the practice or condition of participating simultaneously in more than one serious romantic or sexual relationship with the knowledge and consent of all partners..

What we are not is swingers or cheats. No-one is fucking anyone else behind anyone else's back. We aren't inviting random people into our bed all the time. We are all in a committed relationship, no different to any straight, monogamous couple. It's just that there's three of us.

Polyfidelty is another term for what we have. We're a triad, if you will. A delta.

It's not something that was planned. It's not something either Samantha or I were aware of being or of having any interest in. As my son asked, it's not the reason I got divorced from his mother. It kind of just happened.

Samantha and I have have been in a relationship since 1999, and we have been married since 2004. Lucy and I met in May of 2010. We had sexual bdsm relationship for a couple of months1. She knew I was a married. Samantha watched a number of times and joined in. A few months later, Samantha confessed to me that she was developing feelings for Lucy - and I was incredibly relieved because I felt the same way. We sat down and talked about it, just the two of us and then with Lucy. 6 months later, Lucy moved in with us.

It's not easy. Like any relationship, hell like anything worth having, it takes work. We're still discovering new ways in which we work together. For example, since I retired, Samantha has admitted she's jealous of the amount of time I'm spending with Lucy (Lucy does not work for a number of reasons and so we're both home all the time) so I'm aware we need to spend more time together as a couple. We haven't worked out the finer points yet, still a work in progress. But it's a new situation so we're growing and learning into it and from it




1 the BDSM aspect of our relationship is something I'm planning on writing a post about as well.
jackjanderson: (Default)
Things are about to get very tense in this house. The rugby starts soon. England vs Wales. Samantha is Welsh and a Wales fan. I support England... there is no way in which this is going to play out well!
jackjanderson: (Crossword)
Thank you everyone for your tips and advice on my last post. I definitely found it helpful, and if anything it just reaffirmed what I already suspected.

Write from the heart, write about what I want to write about, write about whatever is in my head, write about what interests me, write about what makes me happy, write about my life.

So what does that mean? what interests me and makes me happy?

My wife and girlfriend. Polyamory. My son. Books I read, music I listen to, movies/tv I watch. Science fiction. Superheroes (Marvel and DC). Football. Fishing. Gardening. Astronomy. BDSM.

I'm not completely sure how any of these are going to translate into posts but I've also been told to not think so hard about, just 'put pen to paper' and 'dont expect perfection on page 1'

All food for thought and I'm interested to see how it all plays out

I have however been working on the title for this thing. Instead of being a bland Jack's Journal, I've now got a name of Flying To The Stars:Adventures in Space, Time, Polyamory, and Fishing which I really do like. I've also got a layout that I'm much happier with.

One step at a time. Perfect won't happen on page 1.
jackjanderson: (A Little Piece Of Heaven)
This blogging thing is certainly more difficult than I anticipated. Don't get me wrong, I'm enjoying it but the more I learn the more I discover I don't have a clue.

I'm not happy with the title of my journal. Jack's Journal. Yes, it's very 'does what it says on the tin' but I don't feel it fits and I don't know what else to call it. How do I go about choosing a name for this thing? Something that reflects who I am and what I'm writing about.

I'm mostly happy with the layout. I think. I like it enough but again I'm not entirely sure it reflects me same as the name.

Topics to post about. I have no idea what makes an interesting post. I'm pretty sure though that 'Today I took the dog for a walk, read my book, watched some TV, ate dinner, had great sex, went to bed' isn't exactly exciting. I do read a lot and thought about maybe writing reviews but I have no idea how to write a book review.

So this is where I ask for your advice: How do I come up with a better name and how do I know what to write about?
jackjanderson: (Fishing)
I'm pleased to report that I remain an utter embarassment to my son. I feel this cements the fact I'm doing an excellent job as a parent. Today he told me, with all the wisdom he has garnered from his 29 years on this planet that I need to 'grow up' and 'start acting my age'. He didn't seem all that impressed when my response was that I'd never been 64 before now and had no idea how I was supposed to act.

Apparently, I'm too old to be watching 'silly' superhero and science-fiction movies - we were watching X-Men when he dropped in for an unexpected, unannounced visit.
Please I was watching Star Trek and Doctor Who the first time around, and reading Marvel and DC comics in the 1960s. I was a geek before it was 'cool' and the current revival is only making my love grow. You'll be prying my Captain America action figure from my cold dead hands. Actually, scratch that, he'll be coming in the coffin with me.

I'm also too old to be reading a kids book about space.
I'd just finished reading The Planets - a DK Publishing book about, well, the planets. Absolutely fascinating book, and it's made me want to know more about NASA's Solar & Heliospheric Observatory

I'm also too old to be blogging or playing Candy Crush Saga - because God forbid I find new ways to spend my day, find new hobbies to entertain myself with.

I do though have suitably 'old person' interests and should only fill my time with crosswords, chess, gardening, fishing and listening to classical music.

I probably shouldn't tell him I'm thinking of going back to school....


(Please don't take any of this the wrong way. I have a really good relationship wiht my son and he's very much like I was at that age. I'm mostly just amused that he believes people's personalities and interests are dictated by how old they are!)
jackjanderson: (Black Canary)
As much as I like to try and stay young at heart, every once in a while my body decides to remind me of my ever-increasing age. Today is one of those days where my knees and back are quite loudly pointing out that I am in my 60s and have injuried myself numerous times over the last few decades.

I have spent much time today enjoying the relief brought to me by various analgesics and strategically placed hot and cold packs. My day has been mostly spent on the couch, with my legs up, a cat on my lap and my dog at my feet. Samantha and Lucy have been alternately curled up with me and caring for their old man. There was also some napping and some adult activities.

I've been reading 1984, playing Candy Crush Saga, listening to the Top Classical playlist on Spotify (50 best classical recordings from today's leading performers, including 2016 Grammy nominees) and watching season 1 of Bones. It's not a show that Lucy's a fan of but Samantha is a big fan of the 'here's a dead body, lets solve the case' type stories and I love detective.

Normally all of that would add up to the perfect rainy Satuday afternoon. But. Days like this when I'm feeling every single one of my years I start to wonder why my beautiful girls are with an old man like me. They're both younger than me and I can't help but think one day they'll wake up and realise I'm not in my 40s like I used to be. I've mentioned it before and Samantha always says she's not in her 30s any more either but I still think she's beautiful, which she is and I do. And then she smacks me and tells me to stop being so stupid.

And so I do.
jackjanderson: (The Brothers Winchester)
Names are funny things. It's the first thing we tell anyone about ourselves but in reality reveals absolutely nothing about us. And yet it used to be believed that the knowledge of someone's name gave you power over them

Take my name, for example. My name is Jonathan but what does it actually mean? 'God is gracious' or 'gift of Jehovah' depending on who you ask. It's the name given to me but it's very rarely used. It's on all official documentation of course but the only person who ever called me Jonathan was my mother - or Jonathan James if I was in trouble. My father called me John, and my elder brother called me JJ - and he's the only person ever to call me that.

Most people know me as Jack. To my son, I'm Dad. According to my nephew, I'm 'Unca Ack'. My wife calls me sweetheart. My girlfriend calls me 'My J'. My ex usually refers to me as 'that fucking bastard'. There's my service buddies who still call me Commander.

I'm Jack.
But I'm more than that. I'm a father, a son, a brother and an uncle. I'm a husband, a boyfriend, a Dominant and a submissive.

It's our connections to people, our relationships, our identities, our... titles for lack of a better word, who define who we are much more than just a simple identifier like our name.
jackjanderson: (Default)
Hi, Hello, Bonjour, Guten Tag, Hola, Ciao.

Welcome to my new website, to my blog, my journal. I'm not 100% sure what I'm doing here other than talking a bunch of utter nonsense. I'm at the stage of trying to figure out what the heck I'm doing here and how things work. The website equivalent of kicking the tyres or giving the place a fresh lick of paint, if you will.

I'm Jack.
My name possibly isn't the most help though as it doesn't tell you who I am. And who am I? Well, that is the question, isn't it?

I am a recent retiree looking for a new hobby. Apparently 'annoying my girlfriend' isn't the best use of my days. Her opinion, not mine. I'm a life-long fan of science-fiction and superheroes - both Marvel and DC. I'm a voracious reader and a movie buff. I enjoy fishing, gardening and astronomy. My favourite food is roast beef. I love to fly. I'm a father and a son. I'm a husband and a boyfriend - and an ex. I have two cats and two dogs. I can't swim. I wish I could type faster.

That is possibly enough as just an opening gambit.

Love to all
Jack
xx

About Me

I'm Jack, a recent retiree looking for a new hobby. Apparently 'annoying my girlfriend' isn't the best use of my days. Her opinion, not mine

I'm a life-long science-fiction and superheroes fan, and a voracious reader. I enjoy movies, fishing, astronomy, and gardening.

I live in Wales with my wife, our girlfriend and an ever growing collection of four-legged friends.

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