Flying To The Stars

Dear Diary

Sun, 12 Apr 2020 10:26:55 GMT

I have officially hit the point where I'm climbing the walls and want to get outside. It's only been a couple of weeks, I wouldn't have thought staying at home all the time would be quite this difficult. It's more craving the normality of my normal life and the partial fear that it's never going to be the same. I'm a cranky old man stuck in my ways and I don't like the idea of my life forever changing. It's done that enough.

All those little jobs around the house have been done. I've done everything I can in the garden. I suspect if it was possible to purchase the supplies, I'd be re-decorating!

I have also been roped into playing a ridiculous game on my tablet. Samantha & Lucy both play a game called Kim Kardashian: Hollywood and they needed more friends so I got talked into playing. While it does kill a few minutes, I'm not entirely sure I get the game. Having said that, I suspect cranky old man is not the target audience for the game. I also haven't a clue who Kim Kardashian is, past a name I see/hear every now and again. Why didn't they want me to play some football based game? I'm finding myself curious about what other simple, time-killing, games are out there but I wouldn't have a clue where to start?

So lets throw this out. Anyone got any recommendations of free, easy to use, games for either android tablet or pc?

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About A Girl

Sat, 11 Apr 2020 10:46:22 GMT

I am very proud with how well my girls are coping with the lockdown right now.

I know Lucy is really struggling due to her routines being off - she can't go to the gym or any of her support groups. We can't go on any of regular dates (me/Samantha, me/Lucy, Samantha/Lucy, all of us - we have weekly dates). But we're taking longer walks with the dogs each morning, spending more time outside in the garden. We're also having a lot more sex. Twofold - life-affirming in scary, death-filled times, but also the BDSM element helps calm her mental health issues. I'm sure there's some psychological reason but all we know/care about, is that it works.

Mental health wise, Lucy is struggling. I know she's hallucinating more and she's telling us that they're saying both Samantha and I are already dead, she's seeing us as dead. Her anxiety is high and her mood is low. I can't even begin to imagine how terrifying it must be for her. All we can do is support her the best we can. I just want to hold her, and she just wants to clean.

Samantha, on outward appearances, is coping remarkably. She's adjusted swiftly to lecturing remotely and is continuing to support her colleagues and students. She's a shining light. She is, however, having terrible nightmares and, similar to her trauma last year, is utterly afraid either Lucy or I are going to die, and doesn't want to let either of us out of her sight.

Me? Well my trauma response is numbness, supporting the people I love and eating my bodyweight in carbohydrates and sugar. I'll deal with everything after the end of times and I know my girls are safe

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Drugs, religion, football and BDSM

Mon, 06 May 2019 11:20:07 GMT

I managed two days on that 30 day challenge then lapsed. It's not a good start, is it? Although, well, somewhat extenuating circumstances courtesy of My Lady Samantha

While we're not technically in a 24/7-type relationship, over the last month or so while Samantha has been off and her health on the mend, things have been moving a little more in that direction. I'm certainly not complaining, it's a lot of fun but I do need to make sure if we keep making these steps, that we sit down and talk about it, set guidelines and boundaries rather than just falling into it the way we seem to be. For example, when do I get to express my dominant side? But the details are not especially relevant for this post, just the fact that it seems to be happening.

I have been spending maybe a little too much time on my tablet in the last week. I'm not sure how I ended up playing it, but I've got a little addicted to a 'magical farming' game called Decurse. We have a strict no electronics in the bedroom rule and I maybe tried to play the game in bed the other evening (I had crops to harvest). That earned me a thorough not-fun spanking. And it gets worse. Yesterday morning when Samantha & I were getting ready to head to the supermarket, I ignored her while playing my game. She took the tablet off me and ( what happened next is under the cut to spare those who don't want to read it )

I'm only allowed my tablet for an hour a day for the rest of the week and I've definitely learned my lesson about ignoring Samantha. She's not sure yet if she's going to let me watch the Man City Vs Leicester game tonight or not.

Speaking of football, Manchester City won the 2019 FA Women's Cup on Saturday with a 3-0 win over West Ham. Another match I wasn't allowed to watch. I wish I was more excited, I love Manchester City and women's football is grossly under-represented - and as a straight man I should thoroughly enjoy watching women play? But it doesn't. I support them, of course, and the juniors - the games just don't excite me the way the A team does.

Now, on to that already-neglected 30 day meme

Day 3 - Your views on drugs and alcohol
Like most things, they're both fine in moderation. I love a good beer and I do enjoy both smoking weed and edibles. I don't like being drunk or feeling like I'm not in control, I like the nice buzz from them though - both very pleasurable

Day 4 - Your views on religion
I'm a lapsed Catholic. I grew up in the church - Sunday school, altar boy, the works. I still believe in God but not in the strict formalness of Catholicism and there's so much of the teachings I disagree with (and I lot I still try to live by). I attend church on the main holidays but don't necessarily feel welcomed due to my family situation

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Day 2 - Where you'd like to be in 10 years

Thu, 02 May 2019 19:35:04 GMT

Alive would be a good start. Alive, as healthy as possible and in full control of my faculties would be nice.

10 years from now I'll be 76. I hope that I'll still be with my girls (without being too much of a burden on them). Samantha will be 60 - still not retired unless she takes early retirement. Lucy will be 50. Maybe I'll even be a grandfather (my son 32 this year)

Other than that, I genuinely don't know where I'd like to be. Alive and healthy, I'll shoot for that

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Day 1 - Your current relationship

Wed, 01 May 2019 19:18:49 GMT

I'm always happy to talk about my girls and I think most of you have been around here long enough to know our situation but for those who don't, here we go.

I am in a polyamorous triad with two women - my wife Samantha and our girlfriend Lucy, although we generally think of her as being part of the marriage as well. We've exchanged rings and if the opportunity ever arose for a marriage to include another person, we'd jump straight away. The three of us have been together for the best part of a decade. Samantha and I have been married for almost 15 years, were dating for 5 years before that and have known each other since the late 90s.

I met Lucy in 2010, we had a sexual bdsm relationship for a couple of months. She knew I was married. Samantha watched a number of times and also joined in. We started spending time together outside of that, and Samantha & I realised we were both developing feelings for Lucy. We sat down and talked about it, just the two of us and then with Lucy. 6 months later, Lucy moved in with us. That was in 2011.

If there's anything else you'd like to know about it, feel free to ask.

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May 1st

Wed, 01 May 2019 15:46:41 GMT

A couple of unrelated points:

I'm sick. I've got some kind of virus, started coming down with it last night - temperature, congestion, coughing, sneezing and very little throat. No appetite and all my old bones are aching. Probably only a bad cold but it's a doozy of one. Today has most been spent curled up on the couch, watching Star Trek on Netflix and doing crosswords on my tablet.

I do not like my twitter name. It's currently flyingtojack. jackjanderson has already been taken which is annoying because that would be my preference. So, my question, as I'm pondering this, is: how do you choose your social media handles?

I mentioned in my last post that Samantha has been 'suggesting' that Lucy & I start blogging again. With Lucy, it's become less of a suggestion and more of a demand so I suspect Lucy will also start updating her journal again. It helps with her mental health, gives her an outlet and she enjoys being able to talk to people about fandom things. I know I do enjoy blogging when I'm doing it but always struggle to think of things to post so I went onto the Pinterest and found one of those 30 day writing challenges. I was going to answer the first one in this post but honestly feel like I'm about to go back to sleep, so maybe later

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Still alive

Tue, 23 Apr 2019 13:57:54 GMT

It's been a while since I logged in or updated or even thought about the dreamwidth and I wanted to ask you apologise. If you read Samantha's journal I then you'll be know what's going on been going on the for the last few months. And for those who don't, her dad died unexpectedly at the beginning of the year and she had what she's calling 'a mental health crisis'

With a lot of support from myself and Lucy, our doctor, the local mental health team and bereavement counselling she's on the road to recovery. And you have no idea how much of a relief that is. I'm not too proud to say I was scared I was going to lose her 😢 Lucy has been amazing throughout; I was concerned the stress was going to trigger an episode of her own but it's like her nurturing instincts kicked in and took over.

In the last maybe 10 days, things are returning to what resembles normal around here. Samantha is still signed off work and it's been agreed that she will be back in September for the new school year. We're finding our groove again and I feel like I have her back; my wife, my lover, my dominant, my best friend

The three of us are taking a long weekend break to Amsterdam this weekend. I think we all deserve to get away, enjoy each others company and press reset. I'm looking forward to visiting a few museums, exploring the red light district, indulging in some coffee shop treats and... Well to be honest some romantic walks along the canals.

I'm currently finally setting up the tablet I got for Christmas so any app recommendations you may have would be great.
So far I've got Facebook, twitter, duolingo, BBC sport, Man City app, good reads, Spotify

For now, I still have over 1000 unread emails to catch up on and then I'll be back to Dreamwidth. Samantha has 'highly suggested' Lucy and I come back to social media...

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Greetings

Tue, 11 Dec 2018 18:29:42 GMT

Hello to all the new people I've added through either the friending meme or one of the addme communities. Welcome to my Dreamwidth, I'll try and be suitably entertaining.

Most of the important stuff about me is in either my profile or my sidebar. But, for clarity's sake, an introduction of sorts

I'm Jack, I'm 66, I live in Wales with my wife and our girlfriend

I'm a lifelong geek and have been a fan of superheroes and sci-fi/fantasy for decades before it was cool. Marvel & DC - both movies and the TV shows. Star Trek, Star Wars, Doctor Who, Stargate, Supernatural.

I'm not, however, a reader of fanfiction or someone who 'ships'

I'm a voracious reader and love science fiction and detective novels - favourite authors include Michael Connelly, Dan Brown, Arthur C Clark, Isaac Asimov and Robert A. Heinlein

I love classical music and opera, and have recently started listening to some jazz.

I dabble in various hobbies and pastimes. I'm thinking of doing some form of study in psychology or philosophy. I enjoy DIY, fishing, gardening, RAF history, football and astronomy

I love talking to people and will happily chat to anyone about anything. I tend to post about music, football, books, tv/movies, geekery, family, BDSM, polyamory... life in general.

Anything else, just ask

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Spotify Wrapped

Mon, 10 Dec 2018 22:13:18 GMT

Samantha not-so-gently prompted me to post this, she's curious about some of my stats. Specifically the age of the music I listen to since I do tend to listen to Classical and Opera. Admittedly this year I've listened to a lot of 2Cellos & David Garrett so those may be older pieces but they're more recent productions - I don't know which date it would take for the tracks

I also, this year, discovered jazz thanks to a Spotify recommendation.

I spent 1309 minutes listening to music on Spotify - so about 22 hours.
My most played artist was 2Cellos - I listened to them for 1 hour
My top artists are 2Cellos, Russell Watson, Razvan Stoica, David Garrett and Royal Philharmonic Orchestra
My top played songs are Somewhere Over The Rainbow (really?), Near Light, Nessun Dorma, Rodeo and First Gymnopedie.
My top genres are classical, jazz and latin. I am surprised that opera isn't there.
The oldest song I listened to was Flamenco Sketches by Miles Davis, recorded in 1959. I almost feel I need to apologise to Samantha for how that wasn't as exciting as she thought it was going to be

The website did give me an exciting little graphic but I don't know how to share it - it only gives me Facebook, Twitter, Instagram and... something that looks like a phone in a speech bubble. No idea what that was.

I also see the Goodreads Year In Review has been posted. That'll give me something to talk about tomorrow. I'm also thinking of going through the friending memes and communities and seeing who's out there that might be worth adding to this motley crew of mine.

But for now, the girls are saying something about bed and I'm thinking that's a nice idea.

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Man City 3 - 1 Bournemouth

Sat, 01 Dec 2018 20:16:07 GMT

Another new month, another attempt at blogging but once again no idea what to write about. Same old boring Jack. Samantha suggested I write about today's football match and I think she had a very good point.

I was born and raised in Manchester and have supported Manchester City FC since I was knee high. Today they played, and beat, Bournemouth 3-1 at home in the 2018/2019 Premier League.

That's 'soccer' to any confused Americans reading.
And the Premier League is the top level of the English football league system. Contested by 20 clubs, it operates on a system of promotion and relegation with the English Football League.

Most importantly - we're currently at the head of the table. Today's win gave us a good five point lead.

This was far from a straightforward win for City, with the visitors in the game until the latter stages having pegged back the champions who had initially led through Bernardo Silva's strike.

City were much better after the break and goals from Raheem Sterling and Ilkay Gundogan sealed a 3-1 victory that also extends the Blues' unbeaten Premier League run to 20.

Next up City travel to Watford on Tuesday evening for what looks like a tricky test against the Hornets. Though the Blues have won handsomely on the last two visits, scoring 11 goals in total, this is likely to be a closer game

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Book Review: When All Hell Breaks Loose: Stuff You Need to Survive When Disaster Strikes

Wed, 31 Oct 2018 19:07:10 GMT

aka What I'm Reading Wednesday

When All Hell Breaks Loose: Stuff You Need to Survive When Disaster Strikes by Cody Lundin

My rating: 4 of 5 stars
Bookshelves: adventure, reference, social-sciences, survival

This book gets you thinking about your priorities in various different scenarios, some of which are gruesome and antipathic. The options are explained and you're taught how to deal with them. The point this book strikes is that nothing is impossible if you are prepared and determined. In showing you how and why to prepare this book improves your chances, you have to do the rest.

Next up is When Technology Fails: A Manual for Self-Reliance & Planetary Survival by Matthew Stein. I appear to be in the mood to prepare for the end of the world. Which, considering the current state of affairs and politics and all that shit... maybe it's not such a bad idea?

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Love yourself first

Sat, 11 Aug 2018 20:46:51 GMT

Sometimes when I'm futzing around on the internet, my heart breaks at how many people seem to hate themselves. Everyone seems to put themselves down - they think they're too short, too fat, too skinny, they don't have the 'right look'. Even my beautiful Samantha was berating herself the other day for turning grey - which I think just makes her look even more sensational.

It makes no sense - she calls me her 'silver fox' and told me that when I started turning salt and pepper that it was sexy and made me look distinguished. But apparently when a woman goes grey it means she's 'let herself go'

Fucking ridiculous.

It turned into a wonderful conversation though about the things we love about each other, and the things we love about ourselves. And what, I hear you asking, do I love about myself?

My optimism. I love that I see the best in people. I look for the good in everyone and in life.

My hair. Sure it's grey but I've still got a full head of thick hair.

My geekiness. I was a geek for decades before it was cool, always loved science-fiction and superheroes.

My sense of humor. Sometimes it's a bit dark but for the most part I love to make people laugh and try not to take things too seriously. See point one.

My chosen family. Samantha and Lucy. My son. The older I get, the more I appreciate them, the more I love them. They are mine. And they like me the way I am.

So now let me turn it around to you and try spread some joy and love around - what do you love about yourself?

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New Dreamwidth account

Sun, 01 Jul 2018 10:38:26 GMT

Samantha has set up a new Dreamwidth account - one for her, myself and Lucy where we'll be talking a lot more about the poly and BDSM aspects of our relationships. She's going to be doing most of the posting, we think, but we'll all of us be involved in what gets talked about.

If you're interested in reading about that side of things, about how our relationships work and want to know about the sex and the kink and all the nitty gritty, come and join us at kinkyandpoly

That doesn't mean I'm going to stop talking about it here when it comes up -but it's going to be more frank, and in depth, and friends locked over there.

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Book Review: Doctor Who: Impossible Worlds by Stephen Nicholas & Mike Tucker

Sun, 20 May 2018 10:08:54 GMT

Doctor Who: Impossible Worlds by Stephen Nicholas & Mike Tucker Nicholas

My rating: 5 of 5 stars
Bookshelves: art, doctor who, reference, science-fiction, television,

An outstanding book and a must for any Doctor Who fan. A glorious collection of all the magnificent concept artwork and designs from both the original series and modern one - though the bulk of the book does focus on 2005 onwards, as expected. A lot of work has gone into every aspect of this, from the production of the book itself to the immense talent in the artists who created the work.

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What I'm Reading Wednesday

Sun, 20 May 2018 10:00:51 GMT

What have you just finished reading? The Dispossessed by Ursula K. Le Guin
And it wasn't quite as good as I remembered, sadly. Very little happens from beginning to end, the book being largely strings of conversations or flashbacks, but every chapter builds upon a growing tension and provides more depth to the characters and the worlds they inhabit.

What are you reading? Disturbed by Jennifer Jaynes
An average thriller, an easy read. The characters are well-thought out and intriguing but the author needs to do more research on dissociative identity disorder. Pretty sure I know the outcome.

What is your next book to read? Doctor Who: Impossible Worlds by Stephen Nicholas & Mike Tucker
All about the creative team, the sets, the props, models, sketches, storyboards and concept artworks.

I don't normally have my to-read pile in alphabetical order so not really sure what's going on here!

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Why do you blog?

Sun, 13 May 2018 11:09:32 GMT

The three of us all try to blog - although none of us are particularly good at it. We all seem to have bursts and spurts. I know I want to keep it in my schedule but I haven't really figured out what to do with it. Lucy has actually has a blogging spread in her bullet journal - blogging ideas, days to blog and reminders to comment etc.

I definitely find inspiration is something I struggle with and it comes down to why do I want to blog.

Lucy uses hers almost as a form of therapy - to get thoughts out of her head and down on 'paper', to help her sort out what's going on and work through it. I know she writes a lot of posts that she doesn't actually publish.

Me... I started it because I was trying to find something to do after retiring. Lucy did it and it seemed interesting. I like meeting and interacting with new people and thought blogging would be a great way to meet people I wouldn't normally meet in real life - but also to find and get to know people with similar interests.

I've found I like blogging because it makes me a better writer. Communicating in person is easy, you have tone and body language but when it's just words on a screen, you have to be more careful, more selective over your words and sentence structure less you come over wrong. Sarcasm, for example, doesn't always translate to a written form.

I also like that it makes me more aware of my life, more intentional about my decisions, more observant about myself. Obviously I can't write about every event, every thought and every happening in my life. So there's a process of how I articulate the most meaningful moments and important thoughts and sometimes the most meaningful things start to appear in the mundane.

There's also the rush I get when I get feedback, every time one of you comments on one of my posts. So thank you.

So what about you - why do you blog?

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Learning German

Sat, 12 May 2018 10:09:05 GMT

I was posted to various places in Europe when I was in the RAF and I picked up a smattering of lots of languages - I've got a little French, Spanish, German, Italian and at one point even a little Polish but I can't remember any of that any more.

lucymorningstar introduced me to a website called Duolingo which she's started using because she wanted to learn German. After some practicing of my various language skills and what I remember of them, I've decided to join in as well.

I've signed up for the website (https://www.duolingo.com/JackJAnderson), I've downloaded the app. I've found my old German dictionary and I've got two notebooks (one for vocabulary and one for grammar) and pens for colour coding (masculine, feminine, neuter). Lucy is laughing at me because she's literally just using the website but I know how I learn so lets see how this goes.

Wünsch mir Gluck?

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Music Monday and an introduction to Jazz

Mon, 07 May 2018 08:25:20 GMT

Yesterday, Spotify recommended me a Good Morning Jazz playlist. It kind of baffled me because I don't listen to jazz and it's not a genre of music I know anything about. I mentioned it to both Lucy & Samantha and they both turned their noses up, Samantha also offering a disgusted look.

I had a quick google and the internet told me that

Jazz is a musical art form which originated around the beginning of the 20th century in Black communities in the Southern United States from a confluence of African and European music traditions. The style's West African pedigree is evident in its use of blue notes, call-and-response, improvisation, polyrhythms, syncopation, and the swung note of ragtime.

From its early development until the present, jazz has also incorporated music from 19th and 20th century American popular music, which is based on European music traditions. The word jazz began as a West Coast slang term of uncertain derivation and was first used to refer to music in Chicago in about 1915.

Jazz has, from its early 20th century inception, spawned a variety of subgenres, from New Orleans Dixieland dating from the early 1910s, big band-style swing from the 1930s and 1940s, bebop from the mid-1940s, a variety of Latin-jazz fusions such as Afro-Cuban and Brazilian jazz from the 1950s and 1960s, jazz-rock fusion from the 1970s and later developments such as acid jazz.

https://www.last.fm/tag/jazz/wiki

Now I do like some big band and swing, and had no idea it originated from jazz so I decided to give the playlist a listen. After all, the worst that could happen is that I didn't like it and turned it off again.

Instead, I spent a couple of relaxed hours, with my newspaper and a wordsearch, listening to and falling in love with jazz. It's definitely something I'm going to look more into but so far I'm finding myself enjoying the 'cool jazz' sub-genre.

One track in particular that really held my attention is Blue In Green by Miles Davis

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A long overdue return

Sat, 24 Feb 2018 10:52:49 GMT

Hello Dreamwidth. If there's anyone still out there, how are you? I've not even been on the computer in a while but over the last few days I've found myself wondering about the lives of the peoples who's blogs I would read, who let me into their lives only for me to disappear.

If you recall, we were having some struggles towards the end of last year and the beginning of this but everything has smoothed itself down. We're fully settled into our new house, all injuries have healed, routines have re-established. Samantha is thriving in her job. Lucy is coming back out of herself again, settling down and making friends.

Things are good and it feels amazing to be able to say that.

I'm settled down in my favourite chair, mug of coffee and some music playing. Samantha is in her office. Lucy is in the other room doing the march set up in the her bullet journal.

My current plan for today is:
Catch up on emails
Catch up on the blogs I read
Update sites like trakt/goodreads with books read and movies watched so far this year
Figure out what I'm going to do with this blog.

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Insomnia leads to statistics

Sat, 06 Jan 2018 05:59:19 GMT

I'm not normally one for insomnia. Sleep and me, we're good friends. And so I have no idea why I'm wide awake at 5:15 on a Saturday morning, and have been awake since about 3:30. Something woke me and I couldn't get back to sleep. I've given up trying and so coffee.

I suspect the fact we're all off schedule due to the Christmas break. Routines have gone out of the window, as they often do when work isn't happening. Samantha goes back to work on Monday though so hopefully we'll get back to what resembles normal around here.

This current bout of insomnia has me actually reading emails and I came across my year in music report from last.fm - I scrobbled 575 tracks, averaged 1 scrobble a day and spent a total of 1 day and 10 hours listening to music.
My top played artist was Franz Schubert with 27 scrobbles, my top played album was Die Schöne Müllerin, Op. 25, D. 795 by Franz Schubert and my top played track was The Lark Ascending by Ralph Vaughan Williams.
I scrobble most between 9 and 10 am, and listen most on a Sunday. My top genres were classical, piano, instrumental, romantic and ambient - although I'm not exactly sure what 'ambient' really is. Last.fm defines it as

Ambient music is a musical genre that is generally identifiable as being broadly atmospheric and environmental in nature.

which to be perfectly honest doesn't exactly help!

If anyone's on last.fm and wants to be my friend, I'm jackjanderson - I know, I'm very original when it comes to usernames!

I also came across my Year In Books on Goodreads. I read 23,761 pages across 66 books. I'd challenged myself to 70 so didn't quite make that. I'm aiming for 65 this year.
The shortest book I read was The Simpsons Annual which was 72 pages and the longest book I read was The Blood Gospel by James Rollins at 802. The average length of book I read was 360 pages.

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For The Fallen

Sat, 11 Nov 2017 20:12:07 GMT

With proud thanksgiving, a mother for her children,
England mourns for her dead across the sea.
Flesh of her flesh they were, spirit of her spirit,
Fallen in the cause of the free.

Solemn the drums thrill: Death august and royal
Sings sorrow up into immortal spheres.
There is music in the midst of desolation
And a glory that shines upon our tears.

They went with songs to the battle, they were young,
Straight of limb, true of eye, steady and aglow.
They were staunch to the end against odds uncounted,
They fell with their faces to the foe.

They shall grow not old, as we that are left grow old:
Age shall not weary them, nor the years condemn.
At the going down of the sun and in the morning
We will remember them.

They mingle not with their laughing comrades again;
They sit no more at familiar tables of home;
They have no lot in our labour of the day-time;
They sleep beyond England's foam.

But where our desires are and our hopes profound,
Felt as a well-spring that is hidden from sight,
To the innermost heart of their own land they are known
As the stars are known to the Night;

As the stars that shall be bright when we are dust,
Moving in marches upon the heavenly plain,
As the stars that are starry in the time of our darkness,
To the end, to the end, they remain.

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The comfort of autum

Sun, 29 Oct 2017 18:08:58 GMT

One of my favourite things about the change of the seasons, the turn into the cold and damp of autumn is food. So many of my comfort foods seem to stem from this season - stews, casseroles, pies, macaroni cheese. Proper, hearty, filling meals that stick to your ribs and warm you from the inside.

Today we had a wonderful beef stew with nice big chunks of beef, carrot, swede, turnip, celery and onion and topped with perfectly fluffy dumplings.
Even better was the butterscotch cheesecake we had for dessert.

I also like the colours of the season, they're so warm - reds and golds and purples and browns. It's comforting, the same as the food

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Music Monday (on a Tuesday)

Tue, 17 Oct 2017 17:20:16 GMT

Those of you who read quantumcupcakes blog already know this but I broke my wrist at the weekend. I slipped on a damn LEAF, put my hand down to break my fall, broke my wrist instead and knocked myself out. Spent a day and a night in hospital for reasons of concussion and frightened the life out of poor Samantha who's been texting me all day to make sure I'm ok.

Today I'm looking at A song that moves you forward

There's something about Bach - Toccata And Fugue In D Minor that always gets the blood pumping

I had intended on posting a meme I've seen floating around but this cast is too cumbersome. If I thought I typed slowly beforehand, I'm even slower right now. I'd still be here at Christmas - and probably the one in 2018!

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A fine line between pleasure and pain

Sat, 14 Oct 2017 08:47:57 GMT

I've never kept a secret of the fact that there is a BDSM aspect of the relationship between Samantha, Lucy and I. It's how we met Lucy in the first place. But I've never sat down and talked about it with you.

A lot of people have preconceived notions of what that means, of how our relationships work, about the kind of sex we have, about the types of things we enjoy - and maybe you do too. The truth is it's also probably nothing like what you're imagining. I'm not entirely sure how much sense this is going to make but I'm going to try and shed a light on some of this.( behind this cut to spare those who aren't interested )

I don't know if that does really explain or clarify things but it's something I've been wanting to write about for a while. It's a pretty important part of who I am, who we are, how we work and our relationships so it felt important to blog about it.

I'm also thinking about maybe - if I can figure out these custom access lists and anyone would be interested in hearing about it - writing about some of our adventures.

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Music Monday

Mon, 09 Oct 2017 09:00:15 GMT

Samantha is at school, Lucy is at yoga and I've just come back from a walk with the dogs. Time to relax with some coffee and today's paper.

For my second Music Monday and continuing on with that much neglected 30 day meme we have A favourite song with a person's name in the title which gives us

A very uptempo version of Rossini - William Tell Overture: Finale. I love how passionate the conductor is and how into the music all the musicians are. A wonderful piece for blowing away the cobwebs on a Monday morning

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