Love yourself first

Sometimes when I'm futzing around on the internet, my heart breaks at how many people seem to hate themselves. Everyone seems to put themselves down - they think they're too short, too fat, too skinny, they don't have the 'right look'. Even my beautiful Samantha was berating herself the other day for turning grey - which I think just makes her look even more sensational.

It makes no sense - she calls me her 'silver fox' and told me that when I started turning salt and pepper that it was sexy and made me look distinguished. But apparently when a woman goes grey it means she's 'let herself go'

Fucking ridiculous.

It turned into a wonderful conversation though about the things we love about each other, and the things we love about ourselves. And what, I hear you asking, do I love about myself?

My optimism. I love that I see the best in people. I look for the good in everyone and in life.

My hair. Sure it's grey but I've still got a full head of thick hair.

My geekiness. I was a geek for decades before it was cool, always loved science-fiction and superheroes.

My sense of humor. Sometimes it's a bit dark but for the most part I love to make people laugh and try not to take things too seriously. See point one.

My chosen family. Samantha and Lucy. My son. The older I get, the more I appreciate them, the more I love them. They are mine. And they like me the way I am.

So now let me turn it around to you and try spread some joy and love around - what do you love about yourself?