Day 1 - Your current relationship
May. 1st, 2019 08:18 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
jackjandersonI'm always happy to talk about my girls and I think most of you have been around here long enough to know our situation but for those who don't, here we go.
I am in a polyamorous triad with two women - my wife Samantha and our girlfriend Lucy, although we generally think of her as being part of the marriage as well. We've exchanged rings and if the opportunity ever arose for a marriage to include another person, we'd jump straight away. The three of us have been together for the best part of a decade. Samantha and I have been married for almost 15 years, were dating for 5 years before that and have known each other since the late 90s.
I met Lucy in 2010, we had a sexual bdsm relationship for a couple of months. She knew I was married. Samantha watched a number of times and also joined in. We started spending time together outside of that, and Samantha & I realised we were both developing feelings for Lucy. We sat down and talked about it, just the two of us and then with Lucy. 6 months later, Lucy moved in with us. That was in 2011.
If there's anything else you'd like to know about it, feel free to ask.
I am in a polyamorous triad with two women - my wife Samantha and our girlfriend Lucy, although we generally think of her as being part of the marriage as well. We've exchanged rings and if the opportunity ever arose for a marriage to include another person, we'd jump straight away. The three of us have been together for the best part of a decade. Samantha and I have been married for almost 15 years, were dating for 5 years before that and have known each other since the late 90s.
I met Lucy in 2010, we had a sexual bdsm relationship for a couple of months. She knew I was married. Samantha watched a number of times and also joined in. We started spending time together outside of that, and Samantha & I realised we were both developing feelings for Lucy. We sat down and talked about it, just the two of us and then with Lucy. 6 months later, Lucy moved in with us. That was in 2011.
If there's anything else you'd like to know about it, feel free to ask.
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Date: 2019-05-01 10:13 pm (UTC)Do you always have menage a trois encounters, or do you sometimes have intimate encounters without a third (i.e., you and Lucy without Samantha watching, or Samantha and Lucy without you watching)?
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Date: 2019-05-02 04:58 pm (UTC)Our relationship is constantly in flux and evolving, it's a living organism. Samantha, especially, is always very careful to monitor how we're all doing and makes sure we communicate and make any needed changes. For example, when I retired and was spending all day, every day, with Lucy while Samantha was at work, she was getting jealous so we took the time to sit down, work things through, and make sure Sam got to spend time with both of us, and each of us, during the week.
We date - in all various pairings as well as in the threesome. Sam & I have a regular weekly lunch date, Lucy & I do, Lucy & Sam do - we have family time on a Sunday, we have date night on a Friday. And yes, Sam & I have sex without Lucy, Lucy & I do without Sam, and the girls do without me. Sometimes it's kinky, sometimes it's not... sometimes it's just a kiss and a cuddle. It all depends on who needs what at any given time.
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Date: 2019-05-01 11:09 pm (UTC)no subject
Date: 2019-05-02 05:00 pm (UTC)